Coffee Talk: On Being More Open

Today’s post is going to be a little different than most, but hopefully a good diversion from the usual. As I’ve been thinking back on the past year (between the new year and turning 29, I’ve had some time to reflect), one of the things I’ve felt like I could be better about is being more open, both in my relationships and on this little corner of the internet. For a very long time, I’ve felt like I needed to be guarded, not sharing too much about my life – only the highlights reel so everything seemed a-ok. And it’s not like there’s anything terribly wrong going on in my life, but only sharing the positives and not the struggles doesn’t really speak truthfully about what life’s really like. And I want to be truthful rather then reinforce the unrealistic expectation that everything is supposed to be great all the time.

For example, there’s reason why you barely ever see me on Instagram stories unlike most bloggers (and many of my friends) who post on the regular.  And honestly, it’s not that I don’t want to do the same, but  being that open with my everyday life totally scares me (and makes me feel real self conscious too). So to challenge myself (at least a little bit), I’m going to try to make the concerted effort to put myself out there, and share more of my everyday life a bit more too. I mean, I definitely don’t want to share everything (you don’t want me to do an Instagram Live of my 3 hour commute, or check in from my office) but being more open to sharing the highlights and the everyday a bit more than I have in the past. Don’t worry, I’m never going to be an over-sharer by any means and I’m pretty sure I’ll never be bold enough to walk down the street and tell you about my day while people walk by, but I’m going to give it a try and see how it goes!And as for CS, I’m going to try to be more honest in here too. I’ve tried to paint a rosy world and be pretty coy when things to wrong, but I’m going to try to address some of the hardships a little more head on to be honest with how I’m really feeling. In a lot of ways, my life isn’t totally ironed out – I don’t always have the stability that some of my friends do at my age, and sometimes it’s hard writing about heartbreak or feeling unsure about what I’m doing when things aren’t going quite as planned. I want to challenge myself to be a little more vulnerable (without hurting anyone else, of course), so hopefully you’ll be supportive of this newfound openness too – and even more so, I hope you can relate.

So that’s it today, just a small shift in a new direction that will hopefully make for better conversations, a little more honesty and a lot more reliability. And I hope it inspires you to open up a little and connect a little more too, if you need a little nudge like I did 😉 xx

  • Girl, I love this! Opening up can be tough, especially when people are just sitting behind the screen, but 9/10 times there are so many other lovely ladies out there going through all the ups and downs 🙂

  • Yay! Maya, I love this! I know that being open can be scary, but it’s amazing the people you reach and new connections you form from doing so. We’re all going through shit at any given time, so we might as well share and support one another. Can’t wait to follow along on this new endeavor of yours. xx